As I helped my husband pack his things I knew what alone was. He had taken a church in Kentucky and I was staying in Alabama. We were still a couple and still in ministry together, but circumstances left us living apart.
I had been praying for friends on the mountain ever since we purchased the house and moved in. We lived in and served a small community and outsiders were really not welcome. We did everything we knew to develop relationships, but we were the pastor and his wife. It was two of the most miserable years of my life.
Months before my husband’s move the Lord placed upon my heart a desire to start a small, special group. The first person He pointed out was the only person who had befriended me from the church we served. Her husband had been called to go back into ministry as a pastor and she was afraid because she had no idea what that would entail. We both had been widowed and remarried.
Next was the wife of a couple that had previously led a small independent church and was looking for a new church home. They had moved to this small community and experienced the lack of friendliness. It took a couple of months before the next lady was located, but when I found her, I promptly to asked her to join. I was excited because her husband was the pastor of a church down the road . That made 4 of us. The next lady I believe He picked for her leadership skills. Without her in this group we might have bogged down in complaining and planning. She has kept us on track and helps with the accountability of the group.
There were others that I wanted to invite but never got the prompting from the Holy Spirit to do so. When we first met, I really was the only person who knew everyone. It was a group that God put together and only He knew what was going to happen. The almost instant chemistry and trust that developed in our group was truly God inspired.
I had no way of knowing as this group was formed that I would need them so much during the following months. God knew and provided each of us a support system and a place to be accountable to each other. We have all been through changes in our lives since we began, and each of us has thanked God that He brought us together.
If you are lonely, whether you are a pastor’s wife or not, I encourage you to listen to the Holy Spirit. Is He calling you to begin a group to share in mutual encouragement and belonging? Listening carefully to those He calls to ask. It will be the beginning of something beautiful.
And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19
And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others. 2 Corinthians 9:8
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. James 5:16
I am amazed at my life as the wife of a pastor that serves a church in Harlan County, Kentucky. We have been married since 2009. I am the stepmother of one son. I am an adopted child and a prodigal daughter to my family as well as to my God. I live in a small community outside of Huntsville, Alabama and have lived in and around Huntsville most of my life to be near my family. I run a business with one of my brothers and my sister.