Statistics say someone you know really well is addicted or regularly viewing pornography.
Still not convinced?
Your best friend, sister or daughter will confide in you that someone they love is addicted.
How do I know? A survey conducted by the Barna group earlier this year shows 64% of christian men and 15% of christian women admit to using porn regularly. Those numbers go up slightly for those who do not identify themselves as Christians to 65% and 30% respectively.
Still not convinced?
Chances are you know someone addicted to something. In our here and now society of instant gratification, it’s more than acceptable to flirt with self-destructive behavior. As I talk with my teens, I learn just how much pop-culture is shifting. Engaging in porn is represented as an ordinary occurrence on sitcoms and in movies. Binge drinking, recreational drug use, casual sexual encounters, eating disorders, shoplifting and cutting are openly practiced by so-called teenage role models.
According to one of my own teens, it’s expected that some of their friends will question their sexuality, experiment with at least one of these unhealthy coping mechanisms and exercise whatever means necessary to escape personal chaos. As a mother, this makes my hair stand on end and ultimately forces me to my knees.
I know the lure of porn, as well as alcohol, drugs, cheap love and instant gratification is strong today. I also know the Rock I stand on is stronger.
In Pure Eyes, Clean Heart Craig and Jen candidly share their freedom story – moving from porn addiction and control issues to trusted partners in a healthy marriage. Although I haven’t walked the same path from porn addiction Craig and Jen have, I know the stronghold of addiction reaches us all in some way. I believe their story is helpful for any person in an addicted relationship, any couple dealing with brokenness and anybody who is sexually tempted.
Yep, everyone should read this book!
Their heartfelt confessions fill each page and encourage the reader to allow God into the dark, shameful places that are easily kept hidden. With each word read, hearts will desire God’s healing power to take destructive habits and hurtful responses in exchange for whole hearts and restored marriages.
I walk my own rocky recovery road and identify with so much of their story, even though I don’t share the same knowledge of porn. I share the struggle of recovery and I am a friend of their Redeemer.
The road to any type of recovery is hard, mostly uphill and laden with hindrances. True freedom takes time. Receiving grace comes through disappointment, failure and acceptance. The journey can be painfully long.
And often the only redemption is found in helping those still wounded. The ones not quite as far into their own recovery. Share in the Ferguson’s recovery, read their story. I believe that with the words to express our darkest secrets, come the power to heal our deepest aches. Intimate stories have super powers. The story of Craig and Jen Ferguson, Pure Eyes, Clean Heart is proof of this.
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